Thursday, December 23, 2010

Holidays + Family = Tradition

Tis the season
"One of the most glorious messes in the world is the mess created in the living room on Christmas day.  Don't clean it up too quickly."  
Andy Rooney

This year I spent a lot of time with my students talking about traditions. It went along with a unit we were studying, Charles Dickens, The Christmas Carol. As a child, even as an adult I wasn't a huge fan of this story. But, it did force me to look back into my own memories and think about the traditions our family has always had - - isn't that what the point of Christmas is about?

Today my family and I started to prepare for our traditional family Christmas Eve get together. I cannot think of a Christmas Eve when our family didn't gather at one of our homes, make too much food, laugh at life, and enjoy the gift given to us - our family. This, of course, got me thinking about the past. Christmas has always been such a warm memory for me. It is always "home" in the utmost meaning of the word. 

When my sisters and I were younger, my favorite memories always involved the being smashed into a bed with my sisters waiting for the perfect time to wake my parents up. We would yell at the top of our lungs that we were ready to get up...even if it was 5 AM in the morning. My parents would yell back that we had to go to back to sleep. It always seemed that we would do as we were told, and then my parents would come and wake us up. Of course, we had to wait in the bedroom until Mom had a chance to go and turn on the tree lights, set up the video camera, eat a cookie, and turn on the fireplace. My sisters and I would wait anxiously until we were told we could emerge. Our gifts would be set up in piles according to child. We always got a gift that was for all three of us. We would rush to rip open our goodies, share in delight at what Santa had brought, and watch as my mom chased behind us with trash sack picking up our wrapping paper messes. After gift were opened, Dad would always make us his special scrambled eggs breakfast with cinnamon rolls. 

As we got older, our families grew, but we always stayed so close. Unfortunately, every other year we would lose our little ones to the dreaded "exes". Although I have always absolutely adored having the little ones around, the years that we didn't have them always became a different tradition. We would still have an awesome Christmas Eve with the kids. But, at 8 PM they would leave. We would go to midnight mass at our church, and the everyone would come and spend the night at my parents house. We would light a fire in the fireplace. My parents would go to bed, but my sisters and their husbands would stay the night. We spread out all over the family room - pillows, blankets, and giggling until we would all fall asleep. We would wake up early, eat breakfast, open gifts and then begin working on the big Christmas dinner. Being the youngest of my sisters, and with the age difference with us, having this was incredible to me. I loved these family traditions. 

Our traditions have changed yet again, but the part that remains the same is that my family is together. Christmas Eve is still for the family to get together for our big event. We have begun making a theme for our meals...last year we had a fiesta...burritos, cheese enchiladas, homemade salsa...yum. This year is Italian! Our family has grown so much that the 10 and under kids get individual gifts and the rest of us have drawn names for families/households. I drew my nieces, Jordan and Jordyn. I am looking forward to seeing them open their gifts. We are also playing the white elephant game, and, of course, I am hoping my brother-in-law gets mine because he will LOVE it! I am looking forward to eating too much, taking a lot of pictures of my family together, and feeling the love we have for each other. It is the best night of the year. 

After the festivities at my sister's house, we will travel back into Vegas. I will spend the night at my parents house. It becomes like a mini slumber party, we get Mason ready for bed, hope Santa comes, and snuggle down for our long winter nap. The morning will be quiet, but exciting as Mason still believes. With that innocence, it's hard to not get caught up in the magic. Breakfast will be on Dad again, scrambled eggs! I love that coming home is like never having left home. It's as sweet as it was always meant to be. Below are some memories from last year. 

Merry Christmas from CoachB! 

Mason putting frosting on his cookies

Grant, my brother-in-law, always has the beer

The little boys playing the Wii

The family eating and hanging out

Jennifer and my other brother in law tormenting the baby

Big Red and Baby Kennedy

Baby Kennedy is just chillen

Our neighborhood does this for our streets

Cookie time and Santa note time

Sleep sweet

Deciding where to go first! The tree or the pile?

Mason and I playing around with Max

Gorgeous boy!

The Thomas Family

Me and my mom in matching night gowns...slumber party time.

My late night trouble makers

Good times, great memories.

Wednesday, December 22, 2010

Settling?

"Settlin" by one of my favorite country groups, Sugarland, is a great song that I feel describes my life. I know, it's so cliche to feel like a song is written for you, but I can't help but to think that it is...and perhaps it's written for every single person out in the world searching for "the one". 

Love? An interesting four letter word that surrounds us everyday, but is seems to suffocate us during certain times of the year...like now. I'm not cynical, I swear. I love my friends and family; I have been in love before. It's just that it seems that this time of year...until, I don't know, February, the word love and relationships take on a whole new meaning. Next year I'm going to be 29, which is really close to 30 and I can't help but look around me and think that this word and the pressure society has put on us to fall in love has taken on a different role in my life. I dread New Years because there never seems to be anyone I want to kiss at the strike of midnight, and please don't get me started on the upcoming Valentine's Day! Ack!

Let me explain. I'm a single and find my independence to be crucial. I've never been taught to just settle for anything. I fight for what I want; I work hard for the things in my life, and I take the matter of love very seriously. But, like a lot of people I fell to the society pressure...find love. In this day and age, you'd think that people would have it out of their heads that you have to be settled down and married by a certain age. Hasn't the term, "old hag" or "spinster" become obsolete? But either way, I was approaching the age of 25, and for whatever reason I was convinced that being in love and getting married was something I had to do. So, I began dating a guy and forced it to be the perfect situation. It was far from perfect, but 9 months into the relationship I agreed to marry this person. I was planning the perfect wedding to the most imperfect person. Reality hit me about 3 months from the wedding and I ended the engagement. It didn't stop me from thinking that I needed to keep searching. The next couple of years I searched and searched, and became miserable in the area of love. I don't know what hit me or how it hit me, but I realized that forcing a relationship isn't the answer. I needed to find who I was in order to find the one that could love me. Wow! Talk about a reality check. I'm a different person now. I look around at my life, and I am happy. I have a career that I love; I have a supportive family, amazing friends, and I am accomplished. I have been able to take care of myself, and whether someone came into my life right now or not, my happiness would not change. I wouldn't allow another person to take away something I have worked so hard to get, they would need to enhance my life. I don't search for that person anymore. I don't go out to look specifically for a significant other. I guess I just feel like if it was meant to be then that person would walk into my life.

This doesn't stop this "issue" from being apart of my life though. I look around and I know I am not alone. Most of my friends are in the same situation. I have several friends that have gone through break up after break up, divorces, and bad match.com dates. We are given stories like Online Dating Dangers and 36 Things Every Single Girl Must Do. What do we do with these things? It's like we, the females, are expected to make the changes. We walk on egg shells around what is expected of us. People pity us because we haven't found "a nice guy" to settle down with. What is that? Shouldn't we be commended for taking a stand on what we want, and not becoming another marriage statistic gone bad?

I have often wondered if we (woman seeking decent men) are asking too much? But, then I remember that we should never have to settle and I can't help but think that society needs to step it up to our standards. I look at myself and my best friends and think, there is no way that we aren't good enough for someone. I guess what I am really saying, in this mess of a babble, is that we are the normal ones. We are waiting and holding out for the right one...whatever or whoever that might be. With so many other pressures in this world, why should something as wonderful as love be included in on that list?

Just a few thoughts...

Sunday, December 19, 2010

Baby, it's cold outside...



December 19th...Sunday...almost 5 pm...and I am finally relaxed.

I was reminded, ever so sweetly, by my mother that I had not updated my blog since August. And, with good reason...I swear. It has been a hectic year, and the changes that have occurred at the school I am currently teaching at has kept me moving from the start of school until this very moment. I won't dwell on the work situation because there isn't anything I can do about it, right? It's just a means to an end, and when I am having a day like today, I can't quite complain.

Let me set you the scenario...the weather in Las Vegas has been cloudy, dark, and windy. I am sitting in my nice clean house, with the lights from my Christmas tree and Christmas decorations glowing, and the sweet scent of my favorite candles are filling the room with my favorite Christmas smells - pine tree and cinnamon. The TV is set to Lifetime's Fa-la-la-la Christmas movie marathon, I am snuggled under my favorite pink blanket on my favorite spot on the couch, and I know that I have freedom for 2 weeks. I haven't left my little sanctuary all day, and I don't plan on it. This is a much needed rest as I prepare myself for the upcoming 2011 and what it has in store for me. I am happy at this moment.

Christmas Tree 2010


You know me and my need to list things to remind me of all that I am grateful for. Winter season is no different...

1. My family - Lord knows that if it wasn't for them, I would be a complete basket case by now. Times have been tough, I have been cranky, and they haven't stopped supporting me.

My family in Nelson, Nevada


2. My best friends - the group is small, but we are close. I can't imagine getting through the times, good or bad, without them by my side.

Me and my girls at BWW, December 2010

3. Building a relationship with my sister - our road has been bumpy but getting past those things has been important. I missed her when we weren't close. She makes me laugh, and I love that I can call her my friend again.

Gotcha...eating! HAHA


4. Ben and Jerry's Cherry Garcia frozen yogurt - my treat, my companion on stressful days.

Yummy


5. Kennedy Michelle  - for being extra naughty and making me laugh on a regular basis


Little Kenny, behaving for a second...


6. Mac and Cheese - my comfort food. 

7. Hugs - I can't believe how much I need them right now. I've always loved them, but right now they are essential to my existence - the bigger the hug, the better.

8. Basketball - from my girls at the middle school to my boys in Boston - I LOVE THIS GAME!

Big Baby, #11 is my love


9. Photography - my escape. Thank you to the families and friends that have allowed me to be apart of their family for a few hours and capture their memories.



The list isn't as long, but it's a start. I'm going to sign off now and enjoy my stressful evening. Let's get this new year going....